How to Write a Wedding Letter to Your Partner
Check out these tips to pen a note from the heart.
Updated on 12/01/22
On the morning of your wedding, as the nerves settle and you’re crossing the final items off your wedding to-do list, one of our favorite traditions is exchanging a handwritten letter with your partner. This custom takes the place of spending the morning with your future spouse, allowing you both to prepare (and get glammed up) solo before seeing each other for the first look and taking that step toward becoming a happily married couple.
"It's important to write out our feelings because very often we take it for granted that our partners know how we feel, when they may not," explains marriage therapist Dr. Jane Greer. "It's heartening
to receive words of love in print because then you have the opportunity to read it over and over again. It's a way to constantly feel the love whenever you need it. This is particularly important on your wedding day because it's the day where you declare your love, and part of that is putting your love in writing as a way to have it endure for all time."
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Dr. Jane Greer is a marriage and family therapist, a sex expert, and the creator of the celebrity sex and relationship commentary "Shrink Wrap."
As you sit down to write, make sure the words, the stories, the promises, and the memories that you jot down are personal and heart-thumping so your partner not only has a keepsake once the big day is over but also something to make them smile before it begins.
Need some inspiration? Here's what to keep in mind as you pen your letter to your partner on your wedding day.
As you sit down to write, make sure the words, the stories, the promises, and the memories that you jot down are personal and heart-thumping so your partner not only has a keepsake once the big day is over but also something to make them smile before it begins.
Need some inspiration? Here's what to keep in mind as you pen your letter to your partner on your wedding day.
What to Include in Your Wedding Letter to Your Partner
If writer's block hits when you sit down to pen your wedding letter, take a deep breath and think about why you love your future spouse.
1. Your Reason Why
Share all of the heartfelt reasons you love your partner and want to spend the rest of your life with them. It sounds like a mushy way to start the letter, but it’s a great way to begin your wedding day. Your partner can spend a few minutes soaking in all of the reasons why you feel committed, confident, and connected to them.
2. Your Hope for the Day
One thing that’s certain about the wedding day is that it will go by in a flash. With that in mind, include your hopes for the event in your letter, including what you look forward to doing together throughout the ceremony and reception. Maybe you want to make sure you both get to enjoy every bite of the food and a slice—or two—of wedding cake. Or perhaps you’re looking forward to your first dance (that you practiced close to 20 times in your living room). Either way, sharing these wishes will help your partner look forward to the fun ahead.