When Is It Time To Face Your Past?

Celebrities get together and break up in front of the camera all the time. But these days you don’t have to be a star to see your new love interest with an ex. With all the social media that comes into play today, especially Facebook, it might be a little too easy to witness the relationship that came before yours. So what does this mean to your romantic future? And when, if ever, is it okay to talk about it? Does this situation deserve its own section in the book of dating etiquette?

In the old days, break-ups were much cleaner. Sure, there might be some old photos of an ex stuck in a box somewhere, but you would have to really snoop to find those. Now all you have to do is go to your new boyfriend or girlfriend’s Facebook page.

First let me say, if you are the one leaving those old photos up for all to view, it’s time to take them down. You don’t have to destroy them. Maybe you can just move them to a private file on your computer. If, however, you are the one left to see your new flame with their old one, the first thing I would suggest is to talk about it. There is a chance they aren’t aware the photos are up. If they do know, and they leave them there intentionally, don’t become angry or try to force them to remove them. Instead, keep those photos in mind. Know that they are an indication that your new lover has not made a clean break from their ex. As they ask you to go further into a relationship, remember those images and hold back a little in an effort to protect yourself. Until they hit that delete button, they won’t be ready to fully move forward with you.