Is Flirting Good Or Bad?

People go to bars alone themselves in the hopes of unwinding and meeting a prospective partner or hookup. Some of those flirters may be yearning for love, but what about a married person? Do you believe their partner will mind? People in relationships are constantly asked if flirting is good or harmful.

         The answer is that it depends. For everyone, putting yourself out there with other people of the opposite sex and making smart conversation helps you feel desirable and confident. If, however, you are already in a relationship, then you want to make sure all that heightened sexual energy is stored up for your partner whom you will share it with later. If your relationship is solid and you feel you are being given enough one-on-one time, then that generally works. Sometimes watching your partner flirt can even give you a sense of pride.

         But if it makes you feel threatened, then it might not be such a good thing. If the foundation of a relationship isn’t strong, it can increase your feelings of doubt and mistrust. The person doing the flirting might feel good, but it might make the other partner feel insecure.

         If that is the case, it is a good time to take stock and realize that rather than looking outward, focus your energy inward to work on strengthening your trust. You can do this by being affectionate, complimentary, and expressing your love toward each other. If you still feel uncomfortable by your partner’s flirting with others, it can also help to set ground rules. For example, a little conversation might be okay, but if it goes beyond that and someone offers or asks for a phone number, the answer is no. The goal is to make flirting work as a positive rather than a negative for your relationship.